It Just takes 1

“First with the head, then with the heart.”
― Bryce Courtenay

Dear Stranger

Lately, I feel like we are all being confronted with reasons to lose faith in humanity. To lose faith in the dreams that so many have fought for and still fight for. I mean, what difference does one vote, one voice and yes one person really make? 

I don’t let the world in before 08:00am. That means, no social media, no WhatsApp and most definitely no news BECAUSE the first things I do in the morning sets the tone for the rest of my day. You see, I learned a long time ago what power 1 had in dictating how I approached life.

At the end of my first year of university, I was switching my major from social work to psychology. In order for the change to be approved, a senior lecturer had to sign off on the change. So I approached the one lecturer who was not only the only black lecturer in the in the whole department but she was also known for being the toughest. Looking back I  think she just enjoyed making students squirm. So as you can imagine, a softy like me stood no chance.

About halfway through our interaction she randomly asked me one question, ”Why are you sorry?” I was confused for a second but I realised I had been apologising since I walked into her office. I had no response. Then she looked me in the eye and said, “as long as you haven’t killed anybody, don’t apologise”. She signed the forms and sent me on my way.

When I finally examined why I was always apologising, I realised I was actually apologising for being me, for not being good enough and what she was saying was I don’t have to. This revelation caused such a perspective shift. I began to consciously make efforts to apologize only in situations that called for it.

You see that is the power of 1. 1 word, 1 moment, 1 decision and yes 1 person. We spend our time waiting for so many things to happen, creating ever-growing lists, not realising it just takes 1 to change it all.

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Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.

1 Thessalonians 5:11

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