Being an adult is hard. There, I said it. This was not what I was promised. They clearly left out A LOT of important details.
Stress is natural part of life, yet knowing this does not make it any easier to cope with it. In fact the lengths people, myself included, go to just to relieve some of it is amazing. Most of the time it can be quite harmless but we are all not blind to the self-destructive ways of the human nature.
I was the proverbial good girl, an image I nurtured with pride and took great value in. Worse yet I became arrogant, often making judgments based on other people’s behaviour. However the pressure to maintain this image as I got older only added to the mounting pressure that is life. Finally I realised that there is only so much you can subject yourself to before it all becomes too much.
So there came the guilty pleasures. The seemingly harmless ways to cope with the stress that take nothing away from being the ‘good girl’. It is actually embarrassing to admit that the way in which I relieve my stress is to pretend that it does not exist. I am the real life example an ostrich with its head in the sand. I will often fill the time I don’t have with K, J, C and T- dramas (shout out to all the Asian drama fans) or a romance novel with a half way decent plot. Sadly when it really comes down to it my poor coping mechanisms are no different from any other.
The reality is that it is normal to seek balance, to do our level best to make it through the day, but what hurts most of us that is that seek balance in the most unstable of ways. Eventually even in this we longer find peace. What we don’t see is our coping mechanisms are rooted in our fear of failure. Yet we often fail to see is that NO ONE gets it right all the time. In reality it is when you a brave enough to fail do you actually succeed and that we only truly fail when running away becomes the only option.
So what does this all mean? Well today I will put on my big girl pants, do what needs to be done and accept that I may not get it right the first time. And when times get really rough I will remind myself that God never promised me a life without challenges, but He promised that He will be with me.
“Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff they comfort me.”
What are you thoughts? Feel free to leave a comment.