Is it a crime to be single? Am I breaking some law that I do not know about? Lately it seems that way.
I have been single for a while now and I’m constantly bombarded with questions like “when are you going to start dating?” “Who hurt you?” “Do you want to end up single and alone for the rest of your life?” SERIOUSLY! I did not realize my singleness was such a problem.
Do not get me wrong, I would love someone to call my own. However, what I will not do is get into a relationship that will test the limits of my mental health. Too often I have seen men and women fall apart because they fell in love with the wrong person.
The story usually goes, they meet and a week later it’s “I have met the love of my life!” Fun fact, anyone can fake perfect for a week but try can faking perfect for a month or 2? No so simple is it? We are so quick to rush the process that we fall first and actually get to know them second. Now you are invested, and to feel like you have made the right decision you rationalize their behavior.
Being single is not a curse, nor does it mean there is anything wrong. Getting to know someone is not old fashioned, it’s a requirement. If that is not for you, you can leave the same way you entered.
“You are too picky” “Your standards are too high” “No one is perfect”
Point of correction(Nigerian accent), I think more people need to start getting some standards to begin with. Love is not about finding someone who is perfect. Love is finding someone, knowing all their flaws and saying I still choose you. Now that’s a person worth waiting for.
What are you thoughts? Feel free to leave a comment.